"I feel like my travel life has completely nuked my social life. I remember having friends (I think) and going out and enjoying myself. Is my travel journeys really going to be the end of my social life or is there some other form it might take on?"
Sometimes our travel life is our social life.
When we put it like that, it almost sounds kind of elevating. We’re told by others (heretics!) that we need a life inside and outside of our journeys. We’re supposed to have families, loved ones, and friends who we create amazing experiences with that have absolutely nothing to do with explorations. And of course, that’s important.
But our journeys aren’t just about travel — they are also a very important part of our social fabric whether we want to believe they are or not. In fact, if we were to sell our journeys we planned and have nothing to do with it, many of us would miss the very real social connection we took for granted.
As conscious travellers, we get to enjoy a very special kind of opportunity to build and expand our social lives that many others never get, and in fact, we often take for granted.
The Trenches Forge Bonds
We’re in the trenches with our peers navigating some of the most trying moments of our lives all day, every day. That shared experience creates a powerful bond of trust, vulnerability, and triumph that we frankly rarely get with anyone else we meet. Journeys are not incidental.
At the time it’s easy to overlook because we’re all worn out. But over time when we look back, we find ourselves developing incredibly deep, personal relationships with people that we would have never had the time and focus to develop outside of our travel-life.
One could argue that we have more reps with the people we travel with than nearly anyone else we spend time with, just based on the number of hours we spend alone. Are there any other relationships where we spend 80+ hours per week intensely focused on the outcome of that relationship? Probably not!
A Magnet of Interesting People
One of the things that I didn’t recognize early in my travel psychology based curated journeys was how many new and interesting people being the core of a journey would introduce me to. As the Travel Psychologist, we create a tractor beam of so many people, from travel businesses to travelers, vendors to the media, not to mention a hell of a lot of other tourism industry members.
There’s rarely a journey or role in life that “forces” us to meet so many interesting people in so many different walks of life. On top of that, we get to be a powerful force in so many lives that creates a center of gravity for relationships to build and mature together.
When I look back on my journey of being a Travel Psychologist, I have over 1,000 contact names in my phone, most of which came from my life as a Traveler and so many incredible friendships that were built. I can’t imagine a more powerful catalyst for expanding my social graph of real people.
Our Voice Attracts an Audience
Our position as Travel Psychologist also affords us a voice that people may listen to. In fact, if you’re reading this, you know exactly what I mean. Whether it’s writing a newsletter, hosting a podcast, or droning on endlessly on exploration based journeys, our travel-life gives us a recognizable and authoritative voice that not only builds audiences but can also build relationships if we let them.
Once again our travel journeys act as a powerful amplifying force that puts us in front of exponentially more new faces than being “Employee 19,527 with a Name Badge” did at our last job.
While we can easily cite all the reasons our journeys enhance our social lives, from enjoying friends’ soccer games to passing on yet another night out with our friends, we have to recognize and take advantage of all of the ways it actually makes us way more social than we’d ever be without them.
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